Tuesday, January 10, 2017

To Honor Loss

Friends and companions, human and animal, will leave our lives, creating an empty space where they have been. We mourn their loss while we struggle to maintain the flow of or lives, now interrupted by sorrow. Let there be a space four mourning. Let there be the time for tears and the acknowledgment of loss. Let us not be too quick to 'get over it.'

Our grief may be private and individual, or it may be shared with close friends and family. Either way, we must not dismiss it. It remains a piece of us, always.

If a close friend or relative is dying, let us sit with that person, sharing the comfort of presence, a human touch and voice. We sit with the dying to ease their passing.

Let us come together at this time of grief with a funeral or memorial which honors the love and life of the beloved who is gone from us.

And let us, in time, find a space of happy remembrance, and a joy in what has been shared, and the love that is a part of us forever.



Tuesday, September 6, 2016

Coming of Age: How Ritual Can Celebrate this Passage

Many of us have not taken part in a coming of age ceremony.  The transition from girl to woman, or boy to man, is not often marked within western culture. Yet, is was seen as necessary to traditional cultures around the world as a way of continuing the values of the culture in new adults, and helping the young man or woman to understand their role within their society.

Missionaries and military formed a two-pronged attack on traditional cultures around the world.  The work of the missionary was instrumental in branding the ceremonies of the colonized societies as unnecessary, or evil. It was an effective way to destroy these peoples and cultures, leaving them open to exploitation.

What could a return to marking the transition to adulthood, achieve in present-day western culture?  Could it create a starting point for a more fulfilling experience for the new adult?  I would suggest that it could.  A ceremony, by itself, cannot take away all the trial and error that comes with this stage of life, but it can provide guideposts, a mindset that causes a young woman to consider her options within a specific framework of the experiences of women who have come before her, and whom she knows within her community.   It is the family and community aspect of the ceremony that provide the support and acknowledgement for the role that the woman must consider for her future life.

Although I speak as a woman, specifically about the transition of girl to woman, coming of age rituals are equally important for men to guide their sons, nephews and other young males within their family or community.  All too often, misogyny and rape is seen as acceptable, and women's sexuality viewed through the lens of the pornographer.   Young men, too, need to consider their role and behavior. 

The rite must include frank conversations about the questions that young people have, and the experiences they are likely to face. The rite itself, is only one part of the process.  The conversations must begin before any ritual, and ideally, continue afterwards. 

The young woman has many things to consider: How will she go about building a career? What will it mean to be a mother? What would it mean to delay motherhood?  What would it mean to make the choice not to be a mother at all?  How will she express her sexuality?  How does she see her body? There will be discussions about coercion and consent.

And most of all, a ritual will acknowledge and celebrate a new stage in life.

Sunday, July 3, 2016

How would you mark a life passage?

What would you look for in a ceremony to mark an important passage in your life?

The ceremony would need to be an expression of the core meaning of this change; it would need to reach into the center of what is happening in your life at this time, and point to the way forward.  You would need to feel the connection to these events within your heart.  The ceremony would be an expression of your authentic self.

It takes time to design such a ceremony - one that fits your beliefs, and is beautiful and meaningful to you.  It is important that I, the celebrant or officiant, work with you so that, together, we can bring together the elements that will be woven into this ceremony.

You may not be aligned to a particular religion.  Even so, we can be spiritual beings and touch the spiritual within ourselves and in the outer world through ceremony that gives us that connection without dogma.

If you are a Druid or a pagan, your specific path will be honored through ceremony.

We experience the spiritual and mark deep changes, finding the meaning of each passage as we move through life's changes.

Sunday, June 12, 2016

The Need to Mark Life's Changes

Passages are milestones to be honored and celebrated: coming into this world at birth; the naming of a new child; the transition from childhood to adulthood; the joining of your life with another; the transition to elder. Other transitions may be more painful and filled with sadness.  Or, perhaps, they come with a sense of relief when something has been outworn, and it is time to move on: a parting or divorce, a miscarriage, a death.  These, too, are events to honor, to mark, and to share with those who are close to you.
Ceremonies are not empty words and actions, they should be tailored to the individuals and families involved.  Like the events that they mark, the effects last in time and in memory.

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